Kissing 101.pdf

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First Edition. Published March 2005.

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Table Of Contents

First Kiss

- First kiss ever ....................................................................................................................................2

- Kissing a new partner for the ﬁrst time ...............................................................................................2

- How to do it step by step ...................................................................................................................3

- Things to remember ...........................................................................................................................3

- Things to avoid ..................................................................................................................................4

- Dealing with nerves ...........................................................................................................................5

- What if they don’t want to kiss me back? ...........................................................................................5

- Photographic Step-By-Step Guide .......................................................................................................6

French Kiss ..............................................................................................................................................9

Practice .................................................................................................................................................13

How to deal with rejection .....................................................................................................................15

How to be a better kisser .......................................................................................................................17

Kissing reactions ...................................................................................................................................19

How to respond to their reactions ..........................................................................................................20

Bad responses .......................................................................................................................................21

Good responses .....................................................................................................................................23

When kissing is not appropriate .............................................................................................................25

Different kinds of kissing .......................................................................................................................28

Games ..................................................................................................................................................28

Different places & ways to kiss ...............................................................................................................30

Different ways to hold them when kissing ..............................................................................................33

The most romantic and exciting kisses ....................................................................................................36

The setting ............................................................................................................................................36

Spontaneity ...........................................................................................................................................37

Differences between men and women ....................................................................................................40

Emotional side of kissing .......................................................................................................................41

Kissing facts ..........................................................................................................................................42

Kissing Customs ....................................................................................................................................43

Tongue Piercing .....................................................................................................................................44

First Kiss

There are two different ﬁrst kisses: your ﬁrst kiss ever and your ﬁrst kiss with a new person. Either way, they

are both so exciting that they will be something that will stick in your mind for years to come. In time, your

recollection of some things will fade, yet your memory of your ﬁrst kiss will remain. You may remember trivial

things like the smell of their skin or a song that was on the radio at the time. But you will especially remember

the feeling you had as your lips touched theirs and you shared that intimate moment.

First Kiss Ever

When it comes to your ﬁrst kiss ever, the most important thing to remember is that you’re doing it - not how

great it is! You’ve seen ﬁrst kisses in the movies and heard people talking about their ﬁrst, and perhaps you

have wondered what all the fuss is about. It is important to make the point now that your ﬁrst kiss may not be

quite as smooth or as reﬁned as it is in the movies. But trust me, after your ﬁrst time it gets better and better.

With time and practice you will come to understand why kisses are the subject of sonnets and poetry.

Kissing a New Partner for the First Time

When you meet someone you really like, the ﬁrst kiss is always a bit nerve-wracking. It seems to take over your

whole body. You’ll probably have butterﬂies in your stomach, but they are good butterﬂies. This kiss is more

romantic because you both know what to expect, but it is the kiss that deﬁnes the relationship and takes it to

the next level.

Who should kiss whom the ﬁrst time? This is a question asked by a lot of people all over the world. I say it

doesn’t matter. A lot of people think it is the guy’s obligation to be ﬁrst to do everything, such as saying hello,

asking the girl out, and making the ﬁrst move. Is it fair to put all the pressure onto him? Absolutely not. If you

feel as though you want to kiss your boyfriend or girlfriend, you should trust your instinct and make the move.

There really is no need to stick to a hard and fast rule that says someone else has to make the ﬁrst move. Good

for you for having the guts to dive in for the catch. Now at least you are going to know that you are going

to kiss someone and can prepare. The other person may feel the same way as well but may feel too shy to do

anything about it.

Decide where you want this ﬁrst kiss to happen. It should be a semi-romantic situation setting but not cheesy,

as this will cause the situation to become more ridiculous than romantic! Consider a place like the park or

beach, where you won’t get interrupted by family or friends. A kiss is something shared by two people, so you

may not want to kiss this person at a party in full view of friends and strangers. Cherish the ﬁrst kiss; don’t put

it on display for others entertainment.

You shouldn’t kiss when you are in a rush. If you kiss and then have to leave, the other person may feel

shocked. This can make it awkward when you meet up the next time. Both of you may want to talk about it a

bit, especially if the kiss has changed things with the relationship between you. No doubt you’ll want to kiss

for a while, especially seeing as it is your ﬁrst kiss.

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How to Do It Step By Step

If it is your ﬁrst kiss ever, here’s what you need to do. (Please note that although this is written from the male

perspective, it applies equally well to women!)

Prepare yourself beforehand so you aren’t too nervous.

Get close to the person you want to kiss, maybe by touching, cuddling, or playful tussling. Don’t make it

too obvious; otherwise, there will be a little awkwardness between you. When it does come to the second

you want to kiss her, you want to ensure you aren’t too far away.

Now quickly de-stress.

Look at her in the eyes to make sure you both feel the same. If she doesn’t, she will pull away now. Looking

at her also lets her know what’s going on so she doesn’t get a fright and get ﬂustered.

Look at her mouth so you know exactly where you are aiming for. Don’t be fooled by how it’s done in the

movies and shut your eyes. People in real life kiss with open as well as closed eyes, and unless you see,

there is a chance you may miss! It also means you don’t have to have eye contact any longer, which is good

because long amounts of eye contact can make people nervous.

Tilt your head to one side.

Open your lips slightly. Holding her by the back of the neck, move into her and KISS HER. Kiss either her

bottom or her top lip. This way the lips get locked together naturally. Holding her by the back of the neck

gives you control and will make her feel comfortable because it seems like you know what you are doing.

You probably want to close your eyes as soon as your lips meet or whenever you feel comfortable. You will

know when the right time is, and your eyes will seem to close by themselves.

Slightly open-mouthed kisses are better than closed-mouth kisses, as parted lips feel more comfortable

and make you feel closer. A slightly open mouth is better than a completely open mouth. It’s kind of like

a build up to a proper kiss, to get a feel for each other and feel comfortable.

Pull away a little to allow one another to catch your breath, absorb the sensations, and feel closer. Then kiss

her again, a little more passionately, with your mouth a little wider. Repeat until you’re comfortable.

Now’s the biggy !

Lightly, softly and slowly, start moving your tongue in and out of their mouth, massaging her tongue

with yours.

Don’t forget to look into your partner’s eyes after your ﬁrst kiss to make sure she wants to continue. If she

feels that the kiss was inappropriate or doesn’t want to continue, she will pull back. Stop if her body feels

stiff or it feels like she’s not participating in the kisses, because those are signs she’s uncomfortable.

Things to Remember

Use lip balm regularly, as this will keep your lips in optimum kissable condition. Don’t use it in front of your

partner just before you kiss them if you want to make the moment look romantic and not planned!

Brush your teeth morning, noon and night. Also brush your tongue as it has bacteria that cause bad breath.

It would be scary to think you are kissing someone with yellow and brown teeth.

Chew gum and always have mints on hand.

Don’t kiss for too long and don’t feel guilty about taking a break to catch your breath and swallow. There

is nothing worse than kissing someone with a mouth full of saliva.

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