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Track 1 - Welcome
0:00 [1] Intros
1:10 [1] {7} Letter to frustrated guy
"I thlnk you're here because you have a problem, a pain, a frustration that you'd like to get handled. I thlnk that the problem of not having success wlth women is ilke a virus running on your mental computer system in the background ... everything runs through it and is corrupted by it... and it bogs the entire system down. I also suspect you're here because you're hoping for a technique ... a secret trick... something that's golng to magically fix everything and give you all the success you ever wanted ... and you have your fingers crossed that I or one of my guests is going to reveal it. In other words, I thlnk you want a quick fix, and you're hoping that its here. - - Further, I think that the REALITY is that you already probably know FAR more than the averagee guy, and probably know even more than most guys who are VERY successful wlth women. You already know the tricks! You already know what you need to do, but you're just not doing it. And actually I think you KNOW THAT THE PROBLEM ISN'T THAT YOU NEED MORE TECHNIQUES. I think that at some level you realize that the problem is something BIGGER, something more intense... and more difficult to face. I thlnk you know that you're using one or more "secret resons" to justify your inabllity to have success with women... and that they somehow give you a kind of depressing comfort... because If you fail at thls, you can always fall back on your secret reason: "I knew it. I knew that this wouldn't work for me..." I think that most people go to therapists so they can hear the words "I understand. I'd feel the same way if I were in your sltuation..." and so they can explain and justify the way they are... NOT to change, But I'm not going settle for that here I'm not going to settle for you walking out of here saying "Yea, I knew I wasn't going to learn anything that's going to help me. I'm just going to have to accept that this is an area that I wlll never have together in life. "
3:07 [2] {3} Commit to yourself
• Before we get into the material, I want you to take a moment and consider the series of events and the reasons why you're going through this program
• I know that you didn't just wake up one day, say "Hey, I think I'll get myself a program to teach me how to meet women"
• If you're anything like me, you've spent a LOT of time, effort, and energy trying to figure out the female of our species And if you're like me, then you've probably gotten to the point where you're ready to take your success to the level to the place we're calling "Mastery"
• I'd like to invite you to really reflect on the years you've spent in your life trying things that didn't work, starting something then dropping it a few days or weeks later because you just didn't have what it took to stick with it, and beating your head against the wall
• I really want you to reflect on where you are, and, more importantly, on where you want to go... now make a commitment to YOURSELF to spend at LEAST the next 90 days working with this program every single day
• Make a commitment to yourself that you're going to go through it at least three times, you're going to implement what you learn, and you're going to take control of this area of your life I want you to say "yes" with me when I count to three - say yes with me and agree out loud that you're actually going to do it this time
Track 2 - Intro to mastery
0:00 [2] {3} Theories, Awareness, Change
• Many of the things I'm going to personally teach you in thls program are theoretical, abstract, and complex
• Many of the concepts are outslde of the realm of "scientific" or "proven"
• In many cases I'm going to pose ideas to you that have no "action step" or "direct application" to your interactions with women
• Why would I say and do these things?
• I've come to believe that the process of successfully attracting a mate is the single most powerful underlying force in human psychology, behavior, and motivatlon.
• This drive is very complex, multi-dimensional, counter-intuitive and ironic.
• In fact, it's so powerful and pervasive that one could actually view every thought, communicatlon, and behavior, no matter how grand or trivial, as part of an intricate mating ritual
"I want you to start watching everything that happens around you and think of it as part of intricate complex mating ritual"
• I've made it my purpose to learn as much as I can about this particular process - first so I can be succesfull myself, and secondly so I can teach other guys effectively
• In the process of learning the "secrets" of how to successfully attract women, I've realized that by addressing some of these more abstract and conceptual levels a guy can not only learn how to attract women better and faster, he can also become more whole and integrated as a man
• I also believe that sometimes just having an awareness of something can trigger a snowball effect - and lead to incredible change, development, and evolution
"Steven McCovey teaches that awareness itself can build momentum. Alot of my purpose today is to just have you become aware of what's going on around you; Aware of some of the processes that are happenning in your mind. Aware of some of the emotional, psychological automated processes that are happening and you're not even aware of. "
• I fully expect that the first half of this program is going to challenge your mind and emotions, and it's going to make you think in ways you've never thoght before
• But stick with it - not only will this material change you on a more fundamental level, but it will also prepare your mind for the incredible specific insights and step-by-step techniques you're going to learn in the second half - and these techniques are going to literally blow your mind
2:25 [2] {2} What We'll Be Covering
• Women and dating
• Section one is about clearing blocks from the mind, body, and emotions
• Section two is about learning the subtle dynamics of interpersonal interactions
• Section three is about learning the strategies of Mastery
• Section four is about learning the specific, step-by-step techniques in detail
Track 3 - [2] {3} Attraction still isn't a choice
I started my "Advanced Dating Techniques" program (which I hope you watched or listened to, because it's the foundation for this program) with the words "Attraction Isn't a Choice"
• Well, it still isn't...
• But men are still acting like it is
• Men are still acting like they can convince women to feel attraction for them
• In this program we're going to go down deep inside of your mind to uproot once and for all those programs that are leading to you chasing women, giving away your power, and ultimately ruining your own chances with them
0:57 [3] {2} - Mastery is about personal commitment
"I want you to notice specifically as you go thru the program how the meaning changes for you of things, how things become more meaningfull"
• This program goes deep ... very deep
• Mastery in this area of life comes from a deeper understanding of the principles, mindsets, and strategies
• Techniques aren't the focus, although you'll hear a lot of them.
• This program is meant to be reviewed several times - it's a reference
• You'll start getting your best results after three, four, five or more times through it
• Notice how the meaning changes as you evolve, and how it becomes more profound
1:42 [2] {2} - Taking control
• Mastery is about taking control
• It's about getting to the point where you don't feel helpless or out of control in a situation
• It's about getting to the point where you control your own destiny instead of feeling like it's controlled for you
• It's about moving from effect to cause... from watching things happen to making them happen ... from hoping and wishing to realizing
• The commitment to Mastery is the commitment to take control of your [own] life
2:20 [2] {2} - The source of this program
• I spent a lot of time deciding whether or not to do this program, as it's not going to be for everyone
• In this program I'm going to share a lot of concepts, theories, and ideas that it has literally taken me my whole life to learn, refine, and understand - in other words, the source of this program is my own journey and experience of learning
• We're going to spend a lot of time doing personal work in this program
• You've heard the phrase "You can't change other people, you can only change yourself"
• We're going to start with that idea, and work on ourselves ... knowing that by improving the inside, the outside will take care of itself
"Once you have changed yourself you become much more effective at changing the things around you"
3:40 - [4] Mastery by George Lenard quote (good metaphor for skill mastering)
"As with all significant learning this is measured not in a straight line but stages. Brief spurts of progress separated by periods where you seem to be getting nowhere"
5:16 [2] {2} - Why Mastery?
• Why Mastery? Why not just leave It at the Advanced Series?
• Because I thlnk that when we want to learn somethlng new in our lives, we go through a few phases...
• First, we try to learn the tricks. We want the quick flx. We want magic techniques that will instantly solve our problems.
• Then, after learnlng a few tricks, you realize that there's still something wrong - when you're beating your head up against the wall and It's just not working you seek out more "In-depth" knowledge.
• This is when people usually get my Advanced Series. But then once you get some level of skill in a particular area, you then begin to realize that there must be a DEPEER level of understanding. You realize that there must be something much bigger at work. You realize that maybe there are other areas that you can develop that will strengthen the area you are trying to develop.
"You begin to realize there must be a deeper level of understading, a deeper level that's connected to other things. A deeper level that ties everything together; that ties not only the subject you're learning to itself, but also everything else in the world and in your life to each other"
• That's what this program is about. We're going to address many of those other areas... and the first place we're going to start is with what I'm golng to call THE DEEP INNER GAME.
6:35 [2] {3} - The first step
• The first step on the road to Mastery may be the hardest.
"And this goes right to the heart of the DEEP INNER GAME, right to the heart of dealing with yourself. "
• The first step involves discomfort, anxiety, and even pain.
• The first step on the road to Mastery is to admit that you do not want to do all the things that are going to be required for you to REACH Mastery.
• It's to come to grips with the fact that there are going to be a lot of things that are going to be physically, emotionally, and psychologically uncomfortable along the path, and that you're going to do them anyway.
• It's to make a personal commitment that you're going to do whatever it takes, no matter how much you don't want to do it in the moment, to reach your objective.
• Can you take the hardest step?
"If you can't take this step, the others aren't gonna work for ya"
Track 4 [3] {3} - Transition Vulnerability
• When a butterfly is coming out of its cocoon, or a baby is being born, or a snake is shedding its skin ... these are the times when they're the most sensitive, the most vulnerable, the most disoriented, the most afraid ... the most uncomfortable. (A cat entering a new room)
• When you start learning new things about how to meet women, changing how you think and learning and trying new things, this will be the same for you.
• The transition period will be the one when you feel most sensitive and vulnerable.
• Remember that there is a long-term payoff to getting outside of your comfort zone and sticking with the process.
• Eventually the discomfort and feeling of vulnerability will go away, and you'll be enjoying a new level of success.
"So what does transition vulnerability mean for you? It means you're gonna feel it. It means that as you're going thru these steps you're gonna get uncomfortable. You're gonna try things that will freak you out. We will talk about issues and then you're gonna go out there in the world and they will come up for you... and you will realize you're powerless and helpless in certain situations. What do most people do when they run into transition vulnerability? They go inside, they hide, they close up, they go "you know what, i'm shutting that out" And repress it. I want you to be aware of it. Don't worry about it; it's just a step you need to go thru. Just like the cat, you need to get aware of the enviroment, the room and soon it will be second nature to you. "
Track 5 [9] {7} - Development detour
• Our thoughts, feelings, behavior, and self image is mostly unconcious
We humans llke to identify with these aspects of ourselves and become attached to them in a way that prevents change
• Many think that 'learning' new ways of thinking, new ways of communicatlng, and new body language is somehow inauthentic and fake
• I think that this attachment is one of the biggest stumbling blocks people face when wanting to improve
• Design a branded process [brandedproccess.com]
• Sometimes you need to progress from Unconcious to Concious to Unconscious again in order to learn
• It's OK to learn and do things that don't feel llke "you" in order to get a new skill
• The seminar is a detour... and spending some time learning techniques to become better with women is a detour
"It's ok to do things that don't feel like you when evolving"
[3]{6} - From focus to integration
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